Every morning when I go into the bathroom to get ready for work, I have to pick up my husband’s underwear!!
I think I may have just heard all the women groan…
What would you say, if I said, I smile when I do it?!
I smile because I don’t HAVE to pick up his underwear. I smile because I GET to pick up his underwear. Yes, I GET to!
Now hear me out…
My husband gets up very early every morning to get ready for work. He tries to be as quiet as he can so I can sleep another 20 minutes. To do that, he goes into the bathroom and takes off his underwear to s&%t, shave and shower. He then gets dressed and heads to the kitchen to make get his coffee. He also makes a cup for me. I shuffle out, get my cup, and sit with him for a few minutes before he leaves. When I go into the bathroom to get ready, his underwear is always laying by the shower. I smile, pick them up, and put them in the basket that’s in the bedroom.
Many years ago, this would have annoyed me to no end. I probably would have yelled or at least nagged about it. My perspective has changed. I’ve learned to think differently!
After my dad died, my mom once said that she missed picking up my dad’s shoes and newspaper. She missed it!!!! She missed picking up after him. This made me think about how different life without my husband and his silly underwear would be. I decided then that I would no longer complain about it. I changed the word “have” to “get” and that helped to see the big picture differently.
My husband works very hard (at a not-so-pleasant job) to provide for our family. He has always worked side jobs too. He kindly lets me sleep the extra 20 minutes while getting ready as quietly as he can. Leaving his underwear there is part of that process. As long as I get to pick up his underwear, it means he’s still here with me.
Trust me there are plenty of other things that make me cringe and nag, but this is one that I have learned to look past.
What’s the one thing your spouse does that you can learn to look past?